• Moobythegoldensock@lemm.ee
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        Problem is that this legitimizes their belief that there are set characteristics that define people as “manly.”

        Every 30 years or so we make some sort of social progress for women and/or LGBT people, and then a panic ensues that society is trying to destroy manliness. The Joe Rogans and Andrew Tates of the world suddenly pop up and start selling their nonsense that will magically make them the man’s men that their grandfathers were (while in fact their grandfathers were being told the same thing.)

        The solution to this isn’t to tell the loud whiners that their exact fears are true. It’s to divorce ourselves from the notion that being a man is determined by penis/testicle size, or even by having them at all. By telling the bigots that their worst fears are true, we’re tacitly endorsing their bigotry as legitimate, when we should be doing the exact opposite of that.

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        8 days ago

        My most satisfying sexual experience was with a small dude

        I begged him for a second date. I think he was self-conscious about it. Dude was marriage material

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        8 days ago

        I hate a lot of things.
        Guess i should start body shaming because of that?

        No. Only insecure losers bodyshame.

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          It’s like with the “do you punch a Nazi?”, even pacifists have limits.

          Then again, I think for me it’s ok to hit people where it hurts when you want to hurt them— and penis size is the “alpha males” easy and effective target just like crowd size is a certain assholes weakness.

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            8 days ago

            Not even remotely comparable. When you punch a Nazi you are only hurting a Nazi.
            When you body shame you hurt every single person who has that characteristic.

            If everyone started shitting on characteristics you possess you probably wouldn’t like it either.
            Have some fucking empathy.

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              Ok, except what if only the target is within earshot and it’s used exclusively to make that person feel like shit? And would this be true of any other insult that could potentially apply to someone else, like being bad at something? Although I guess if harm is the goal, empathy isn’t exactly a priority.

              I’ll concede you’re right about collateral damage, though. Friends of mine know I don’t actually believe the insult in most cases (especially penis size, what am I, 12?), but I use more tact if I’m worried it would upset present company or being up bad memories, etc (more commonly fat shaming). I also don’t insult people like I used to, though.

              But, I don’t really hold anything sacred and I’m not about to hold back a good insult for a hypothetical person.

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              Drag doesn’t know a single person who buys into that penis size stuff and isn’t a conservative. In fact, most of drag’s friends have a penis and want to get rid of it.

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      Testicle size and reproductive potency are entirely unrelated to penis size, for all the men out there. And if you only ever have one partner at a time that you want to make babies with, you don’t really need to be a super stud in the testicle department. You just need regular sexual contact with your lady half.

      But this shows that even if you do want all the ladies, large testicles don’t matter.

      (Aside; people with breeder fetishes who impregnate multiple women are fucking gross and weird. Musk is one such and just… eew.)

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        8 days ago

        It’s the compatibility with a partner imo, the match is everything - the technical details are mostly irrelevant once events take place

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      8 days ago

      this (the study) is about the crystal balls, not the magic wand.