Schwim Dandy

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Cake day: March 28th, 2024

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  • Can I ask why you can’t let them talk their nonsense? I know you don’t think you can change them so if you choose to hang out with them, why can’t you just let them be them? I’m not telling you that you should hang out with them, just that joining in on their discussion is a zero sum game.

    I chose not to interact with family any longer and haven’t spoken to any of them in years. Not out of anger or spite but simply because none of us were getting anything positive from the relationship.













  • That might not work either. If a server marks it as spam, we do something called blackholing the email, meaning we discard the email and close the connection without responding to the sending server. This is done in an effort to provide as little info as possible to a bad actor.

    If you don’t send an email from a server and address deemed reputable and with a low enough spam score, you’ll be shut down by more than 95% of the mail servers out there.


  • There’s really not enough info here to help you. Are you looking for software? Writing it from scratch? Web tool? Bulk or not?

    I don’t know how many addresses you plan on testing on any one server but we’ve been on to this trick for decades now and the firewall will block you from almost every server once you try a non-existent address a few times(for my servers, it’s 2). Many servers also report bot/spam IPs to the ISP and if you get reported enough time, your connection could get shut down.





  • A better comparison would be if you had a third arm, or if you were short one arm due to a genetic anomaly or injury. You may feel social pressures that you may not fit in or maybe you feel body dysmorphia about your body being different from other people you identify with. You likely would want to seek care to more closely align your body to one that is socially expected.

    This was very helpful, thank you. I also understand better regarding gender-affirming care. That seems very hard to receive currently, at least in the US. Perhaps it’s being politicized by those in power but I see more comments about not being able to receive any care than I do about successful treatment.


  • If you don’t mind me asking, do you feel the surgeries are necessary to feel as at peace with yourself as you can or do you feel that the steps you’ve taken to this point might suffice in giving you a chance at a happy life? If you feel the surgeries are a necessary step, can you put into words why? Unlike society forcing things on you, it seems at the point of surgery, it has less to do with that and more with changing you for you. I struggle to understand what causes a person to feel that way.

    I’m definitely not asking you to justify your desires and I understand if you’d rather not speak about it to me, I’m just wondering if you can help me understand the necessity of something that seems like such a drastic measure to me. The reason behind it must be very powerful.