
I could come up with a list, but I’d just say pack with what seems right, be okay being wrong, and start of with short hikes, and go longer (leaving an itinerary and estimated return time with a trusted friend). You’ll soon find what you do/don’t need and come to an equilibrium. Do research based on what you found works/doesn’t work. For example, you might find hiking blogs say bringing a camping stove is a must, but you and your wife can do just fine eating nothing but trail mix for a 5 day excursion, or you might find freak rain showers absolutely ruin hikes and a small tarp is a must no matter what the weather says…that kind of thing.
This just kinda makes me sad that I don’t have anyone who likes to go on adventures like this, so I just usually end up going hiking alone. ☹️