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  • Apytele@sh.itjust.workstoScience Memes@mander.xyzJet Fuel
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    7 days ago

    I remember reading somewhere that while a western audience would perceive this as utterly farcical, a Chinese citizen is at least more likely to perceive it as the government taking their safety and security seriously enough to be thorough about it. While I’m sure there was some person somewhere in the chain of command who thought this was a good and important idea and that they needed to check the pigeon butts for explosives, there’s no way all of the people involved in doing those searches thought it was likely to uncover an actual weapon, but the cultural context makes it important to err in that direction. Meanwhile in the US, the government is more successful in hiding abuses by “protecting freedoms.” Powerful people all around the world have basically the same playbook, but a big part of that strategy is knowing their audience.

    You can also utilize the somewhat covert bribery and diversion systems to this end. As long as everybody thinks everybody ELSE is following the guidelines, and that they’re the only ones really getting away with things / reporting that they’re following guidelines when they’re not, you can get the same result and all you have to do is not look too closely, which is probably what you’re doing with most other things already. In the US you don’t even need to bother doing that because aside from not culturally having enough shame to do so, actively hiding our idiocy in any way would be considered a restriction on freedoms. Around these parts its your god given right to be a dumbass and the gubmit can pry that from your cold dead hands.

    We’re stupid, but at least we’re honest about it. They’re stupid, but at least they have the decency to not act like it out in broad daylight. Neither is better and both can easily be a tool of the bourgeoisie.



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    I once heard of a pediatrician who successfully convinced a concerned mother that anti-vax ideology was likely a psyop by the Russians to weaken the health of the American populace starting with our children. Doesn’t hurt that it’s probably true.

    EDIT: My personal conspiracy theory is that the Chinese government did engineer (or at least selectively cultivate) COVID, but not to kill Americans. In the early days of the pandemic there was some speculation that it affected some blood types more than others, particularly type A. While no link to blood type specifically was found, type A is a more common genetic trait as you move out of Asia and towards the middle east. China has been heavily persecuting the Uyghurs (Chinese Muslims), and those who have managed to get out of the camps have reported medical experimentation and being injected with unknown substances. In addition, the virus would also kill a significant number of the older population, which is important because of the population crunch they’re about to experience due to one-child policies resulting in a high amount of female-specific infanticide. They’re about to have a bunch of old people and a massive shortage of able bodied young people to care for them. Even if they didn’t directly “engineer” the virus in a gene-sequencing manner, they have a lot off motive to just generally cultivate and spread (you can’t really “breed” a virus) an infectious disease targeting people of middle eastern descent and elders.

    Thank you for coming to my tinfoil-hat Ted Talk.





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    One of the biggest ways delusions keep a hold of people is by disconnecting them from supportive / positive social relationships. The deeper down the rabbit hole they go, the more people they argue with, and the less non-delusional friends they have. Try to figure out what those beliefs and social groups replaced, then get them back into supportive social groups around that. Often it’s a hobby like gardening, book clubs, cars, sports, hiking, etc.

    That’s why all of this took off so hard during COVID, people got ripped away through all of those things and Russian disinformation bots were right there and ready to replace that sense of connection with a sense of being part of a larger movement. Sometimes it’s spiritual or religious groups which has been difficult because so many of those groups have just become completely overtaken and become vehicles for the delusions, so we also need to work on ways for people to express their religion and spirituality in non-delusional ways, but that’s a whole other discussion.

    The short version is: make the delusional stuff subtly less accessible (encourage them to get away from the computer and TV) and try to get them into other positive activities that connect them with other people and help them move their focus away from the delusions without directly confronting them.


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    When confronted directly delusions tend to integrate the new information into the existing belief system so two examples here would be that maybe the study was flawed or only referring to a specific type of signal or specific type of brain cancer but the more likely option is just deciding that this is more proof that the system as a whole aims to deceive them.

    Source: am psych nurse and was trained long ago to never try to talk someone out of a delusion for the exact reason that it tends to just make them stronger (I answered somebody’s question about what to do instead down below if you’re curious).




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    It also helps clearly define the key interventions for each. All of these kind of apply to all of them but there’s a few key points for each it can help to focus on.

    “Disappointing:” don’t brag about it but also don’t try to undersell yourself either - focus on your pregame:

    • actively listen for what your target finds appealing, particularly in terms of “the five love languages,” touch, praise, gifts, service, and time. Identify the target’s preferred top two (ideally top 1) and focus your efforts there. 90% of the average woman’s sexual satisfaction is going to occur before her pants even come off anyway and most men completely ignore that so you have the opportunity to really stand out by making that your strength.
    • also work on your fingering and oral game.

    Average: nail down “the motion of the ocean” (roll your hips) and learning to slow it down.

    • if your dick has a curve to it, try to pick positions that will poke the tip of your dick into the g-spot in the front wall of her vagina. If your dick curves up towards your head, you want her facing you, so missionary or cowgirl. If your dick curves down towards your feet, you want doggy or reverse cowgirl (but be careful with reverse cowgirl if she’s taking you all the way out and back in too fast / hard she can actually damage your dick. The side curves are a bit tricky so what you wanna do is get her on her side facing the direction your dick curves while you straddle her bottom leg and put that top leg up around your hip on the side she’s facing. (y’all gonna get me breaking out the dolls LOL). That said, this is just gonna be your “classic” position. Make sure you still mix it up a bit; variety is the spice of life, and obviously listen to your partner FIRST, if she tells you she’s got a fave try to stick with that and just try this one once or twice to see if it does it for her.

    • stop masturbating as much except for rubbing one out about 24h before you anticipate having sex. (12h if you’re a premature ejaculator, 36-48h if you have ED / difficulty orgasming, although less masturbation should help with that, if you have both, see a doctor). You’ll last longer and seem less desperate and have better focus in the leadup.

    “Awesome” - you’re not allowed to do doggystyle, either of the cowgirls, or put her legs over her head unless she looks like a literal Amazon or has explicitly told you that she is a size queen. You only get to do missionary, reverse missionary (her on top but laying down over you) or lotus (you sitting with her on your lap with legs around your hips). And if you’re REAL big, avoid even putting it in all the way if you can.