Now downvote me to hell and then ask an admin delete my comment for being transphobic

Cringe

And they didn’t say we shouldn’t have any teams, they said teams not be divided by sex.

If a gender diverse person tells me that their gender changed, then their gender changed.

The problem is that you’re assuming the past gender of trans women categorically.

But to say that the only way for trans people to be is the way you perceive them to be

I am quite explicitly not saying this.

You said:

She wasn’t born a man. Trans women don’t “become” women. They stop hiding the fact they are

I’m trying to tell you that this claim is not just wrong, but it’s a harmful over-generalization. I was not a girl for the first ~12-16 years of my life, and that’s why I’m telling you our identities (past and present) are ours to determine, not yours. I was a boy, I did become a girl. I was comfortably cis for a long time, but things changed as I grew up.

Reading this stuff today only serves to drag those anxieties back up, because if we assume your claim is true then I either wasn’t a boy back then, or I’m not a trans woman now. I have to sit here and think about how you’re wrong, and why trans people don’t have to have always been trans in order to transition and be valid.

That’s what motivated me to respond to you. Whether or not you’re willing to grapple with the idea that you may be hurting people is your prerogative, I’m just telling you those claims have done harm to me in the past and may be harmful to others now, specifically young cis people.

Different people use different words about their transition, and I think you’re imposing your own experience onto others. To say that trans women categorically weren’t men in the past totally invalidates how I have always described my transition. I don’t share your experience, and I don’t describe my past self the way you seem to think I should.

I was comfortable with my gender, and I don’t think it was invalid for me to have identified as a boy. That’s not who I am now, but that doesn’t invalidate my identity for the first 16 years of my life. And I think if speaking, behaving, or filling the social role of a male doesn’t make it valid to say that I used to be a boy, then that feels invalidating to everything I thought made me a woman. :/

But I think all of this is heavily philosophical and subjective, so I’m not saying your feelings are wrong either. But to say that the only way for trans people to be is the way you perceive them to be is not just silly, it runs the risk of invalidating everyone else who doesn’t share your feelings on the matter. Our identities are our own to express, not yours.

Yeah those things might be healthy but I don’t see how it’s relevant to this discussion…

This was 1000% written by an AI 🤦‍♀️

Like the other guy said, this is a popular meme format, OP didn’t draw this. They’re not saying Sync is bad, they’re saying it’s not FOSS like everything else we’ve seen so far

But I guess it’s a matter of interpretation. I liked the meme but I’m sending this from Sync ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

How is this gatekeeping???

You want to sort by “Active” or “Hot” to see newer posts. Or something like “Top of the Day/Week”. If you want, you can change what your feed defaults to in your settings at the top. (This also applies to Lemmy apps.) You can also change the default filter type on your feed to “Subscribed” if you want it to be like Reddit, where by default it just shows you communities you’re subscribed to across all instances.

As for navigation, yeah it’s a hot mess rn. I feel like when someone posts a link that goes to a different Lemmy instance than the one you’re currently using, there needs to be a button or something attached to it to open that link inside your current instance, instead of taking you away to one you aren’t logged into. But I’m willing to bet that apps like Jerboa or Liftoff will solve this soon if Lemmy doesn’t do it first.

Is there anything in particular that you find confusing?