Not strict as in beatings; strict as in limited screen time, set bedtime and morning call, curfew, chore schedule, healthy diet and mandatory regular exercise, no smartphone, etc. We have a 15-year-old son.

  • SanguinePar@lemmy.world
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    14 days ago
    • How much, if any, input does your son have on the rules you set for him? Can he realistically suggest changes to the rules?
    • How positively/negatively do you believe your son views the rules? Does he follow them willingly or grudgingly?
    • How does his situation compare with those of his friends?
    • How have the rules developed over the years? Have they loosened/tightened as he’s grown up? At what point do the rules stop appying?
    • To what extent are the rules enforced? And by what methods?
    • Do you ever question your approach?

    Genuinely interested in this, none of those questions are asked with prejudice.

    • gamefowl@lemmy.worldOP
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      14 days ago
      1. We’re always open to communication & are adaptable. For example if his daily screen time limit is 2h, if he’s watching once in a while a movie such as Lord of the Rings, idk, which exceeds that, we’ll let him finish. Or if his out with friends and his curfew is in a bit but everyone’s leaving a short time past that, he won’t drag him out of there. The only rule is he shouldn’t make a habit out of this and try to follow the rules as they are, which he does. But as in him making the rules, no, he knows that’s the “authority figure’s” job. 2. Pretty positively, he follows them willingly. 3. Depends, some have more authoritative parents, others more permissive parents. 4. I think they have remained around the same enforcement wise. Around 18 transitionally. 5. Fully. We never use violence, but punishment includes things such as time outs, no going out, no phone / screens, writing an essay self-reflecting on behaviour, etc. 6. No, not really.