Not trying to give relationship advice, but have you considered that your 1st criterias should be “has hobbys/interests and their shit somewhat together”? with the full-time job criteria, you could ironically filter out a perfect fit and end up with the same kind of person again, without realizing it.
I’ll take it into consideration but like I’ve said I’ve dated a few people and some of those people have had hobbies and their shit together for the most part but the ones that did not have a full-time job to support their hobbies on top of that have always been concerningly quick to start relying on me to financially support their hobbies, which is its own issue.
I think if I were to bend that rule again that person’s hobbies would have to be closely interlinked with my hobbies so that the financial requirements would not increase.
Not trying to give relationship advice, but have you considered that your 1st criterias should be “has hobbys/interests and their shit somewhat together”? with the full-time job criteria, you could ironically filter out a perfect fit and end up with the same kind of person again, without realizing it.
I’ll take it into consideration but like I’ve said I’ve dated a few people and some of those people have had hobbies and their shit together for the most part but the ones that did not have a full-time job to support their hobbies on top of that have always been concerningly quick to start relying on me to financially support their hobbies, which is its own issue.
I think if I were to bend that rule again that person’s hobbies would have to be closely interlinked with my hobbies so that the financial requirements would not increase.