• Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml
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    7 months ago

    You’re just assuming I don’t feel attraction. I do, I just don’t feel attracted to children. Ace people aren’t fucking robots you know.

    You need to take the appropriate steps to make sure you don’t either because it’s only a matter of time before you end up acting on it. Normal people don’t feel this overpowering pull you’re describing and you need to understand that it’s impossible to be virtuous while doing nothing to rid yourself of it.

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      7 months ago

      You are making some olympic mental gymnastics level assumptions about me there.

      I know you can be attracted to others. What my libido does is only one component in how I feel about someone, and often the least useful. But by definition it is a component ace people don’t need/get to worry about.

      You definitely have no experience with the “urges” of a sex drive, because there is literally no way they can take control of a person to the extent they commit crimes before they realize what they are doing is wrong. That’s not a thing.

      How the fuck did you get “overpowering” from my expressing the ease at which they are suppressed?

      If child molesters were somehow driven by a cerebral malfunction they can’t do anything about, they’d be pitiable, not monsters worthy of death. They chose to do it.

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          7 months ago

          For what?

          What is it you fear I will do if I don’t? Educate people more?

          If I was what you seem to be suggesting I am, do you even know what “help” would be? I do.

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            7 months ago

            yo, Just wanted to give you props for remaining far calmer in this discussion than I would’ve been able to.

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              7 months ago

              Yeah…

              Looking at the edits they made to their initial comment. I’m not sure where to even start explaining why they’re wrong about this.

              Apparently liking anime is damning evidence to this person, and their point about feeling unsafe is hilarious considering their attempts at lumping me together with the worst of the worst in order to boost their own position.

              Nevermind the actual risk to my safety it could be if they succeed.

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      7 months ago

      You are in the wrong side of this.Theres a German doc shedding some light on this issue:

      https://youtu.be/vogs4NzqI3Q (money quote around 7:07), basically “half the perpetrators of child sexual abuse do not feel an attraction to kids. On the other hand, half the people who do feel attracted to kids do not become perpetrators.”

      Basically, half the people abusing kids don’t do so because they’re attracted to kids but presumably because they’re easier victims whereas half the people getting attracted to life feel disgusted by themselves.

      It’s, for all that we know, as congenital as being straight or queer. Now, with queer and straight preference, you don’t necessarily run into consent problems. Imagine you notice yourself being attracted to, idk, 15-year-olds. You’re otherwise a reasonably well adjusted human being. That’s gotta be devastating. You can’t help it, you were born this way. There’s no redemption arc here, the only thing you can do is just never ever give in to this feeling.