• JamesConeZone [they/them]@hexbear.net
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      Do some self-crit. Why do you feel that way and why has our society applauded that idea? Where did the idea of kids should be seen but not heard come from and why did our society so quickly adopt it? Why are kids seen as an inconvenience instead of learning to exist in society? What affect does this have on you and on kids you interact with?

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          “Oh no. I live in Los Angeles and my kid’s beloved grandfather from Boston just died. But I have a newborn and they cry sometimes because they’re a newborn, and [email protected] doesn’t want to hear babies being normal babies so I guess we’ll just have to miss the funeral.”

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              The idea that a person should have to skip their father’s funeral because they have a newborn is absolutely fucking bonkers. Public transport is for everyone that needs to be transported (or should be).

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                  Americans pay close to 20% of their income for childcare which the richest country in the history of the world chooses not to pay for.

                  For Americans, giving birth costs thousands of dollars for the hospital visit if nothing goes wrong, nevermind the OB visits or testing necessary.

                  Again in America, most people have no maternal/paternal leave. This is legislative punishment. Removing productivity from the economy must be punished and barriers to people having kids must be put up. Children cannot contribute to the economy, so are treated as burdens and a nuisance. Children are not allowed to interact in most of society because they are “loud and obnoxious” and are expected to be neither seen nor heard. When they are, parents are shamed by people like you.

                  And then there’s little shits like those in this thread who sneer at the very idea of kids being around them.

                  ETA: for comparison, communist East Germany had

                  • 6 months of paid maternity leave while pregnant
                  • 1,000 marks up front for your kid (about a month’s wages)
                  • 1 year of paid maternity leave after birth of child
                  • Job guarantee after that time away
                  • 23 days PTO annually to care for sick children. Shift workers got additional 10 days
                  • Guaranteed free childcare for 3-6 yr olds and for those under 3 if you qualified

                  And they had no where near the wealth or resources that the USA does. This was in the 80s during heavy political pressure too!

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      Your lack of basic human empathy is infinitely more annoying. I hope that you yourself are a child with an underdeveloped brain, because the alternative is that you have no soul.