i’ve always felt somewhat different than everyone else growing up, in terms of just…sensibility, or how i’d act or react to things, and especially with who i was attracted to. lots of straight girls, sure, but also this meme (sorry for reddit --> https://www.reddit.com/r/pansexual/comments/nw4fmv/ahh_who_can_relate/). it’s good to know there’s a real framework behind it and i’m not just some lecherous monster

i already feel this noticeably difference sense of presence, of comfort and ease with myself; just having a label like this makes so many little things click into place that i never even realized were making me feel different or self conscious before. similarly, i thought i might’ve been trans for a summer, but transitioning felt maybe too drastic or scary and too much of a departure from a body i had some level of peace and experience with.

but yes that’s me, typing words. it’s a lot to process

  • Yote.zip@pawb.socialEnglish
    10·
    1 year ago

    I’m very happy for you, and I feel the same way about labels. I know some people deem labels harmful/reductive but whenever I’ve found a label for myself it has usually given me happiness and understanding. I’ve got a lot of labels, and before I found them my life was a confusing mess - I didn’t match other people’s behaviors and I couldn’t figure out how it was so effortless for them. Now I know where all the stuff I do comes from and that there are a lot of people like me.

  • oNevia@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    5·
    1 year ago

    Congrats on realizing your truer self! I’m a relatively recent hatchling as a trans woman and had a lot of those same feelings. More comfort and ease with myself, things tending to click into place (especially when recontextualizing my life), and realizing where a lot of my shame, guilt and self conscious behaviors were coming from.

    Love yourself and explore what makes you happy and you’ll find your peace ❤️❤️

  • Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    2·
    1 year ago

    Hey that sounds like a huge weight off!

    I was gonna say… Pansexuality is sometimes a stand-in label for a trans person who isnt sure yet but wants to keep their mind open to dating trans people.

    I’m trans and I just want to add that you do not need to medically transition. Most trans people don’t need to for their dysphoria / euphoria. In my life though, I’m a trans female. Ive been certain about it for less than a year. I havent gotten to start medically transitioning even though that’s important to me. In that time I have socially transitioned and played with my appearance, explored what I want to look like as a female. Clothes, makeup, voice training. A bit of everything. And its been a little bit frustrating because ultimately I want to dress pretty masculine and still look feminine - which is what hormones and surgeries will hopefully provide me.